Friday, August 27, 2010

Recipe for Getting Published

August 27, 2010

I hold in my hands... a self printed version of my latest chapter/middlgrade compliments of the HP printer and a couple of print run throughs as I learned how to make words appear on the front and back of pages. Like magic!

This HP version of my latest draft - in my hands- sends chills the size of eyeballs up my arms :) Of course it does - because this book is about stirring up scary monsters!!! And I have to say... I really think it's something. Something clever. Something fun. Something that well represent me... a girl who grew up always thinking she saw monsters from the closet to the basement and every drawer and dark corner in between them.

One day - I will look back on this blog as an author with THIS :) book on the shelves of BN and it will seem so far away. Because the recipe for getting published (as I believe it to be) is to always look forward. To act with passion and focus, in the moment, but with a positive and constantly self-uplifting momentum... seldom stopping to ponder past time or hurdles.

Relentless, positive passion AND... tons of networking. That's my current recipe for action.

Over 3 years, I've been attending tons of writer's events and meeting editors, agents and authors because its hard to get a person to consider your story if they've never met or heard of you. And I'll continue because it's a journey worth going on!

For now / Next Up - I am going to read through this "Recipe" book and then do another complete work through. Hopefully after that - I can find a genius editor to help with the finishing polish and make it presentable for the grand event... the time when I agree that 20zillion re-writes brought me far enough to submit and face the true results of an agent or an editor's reading tastebuds.

I know that tastes are subjective and that there are SO MANY stories out there. In fact, I spoke with a fellow writer yesterday, who spent 3 years on her screenplay, and she said to me - "What happens if I never even get a chance, if no one ever reads it? Do I just start over again?"


Though, lets hope for the flip side - that our recipe for getting our work solid and polished and in the hands of the right agent/editors... works out deliciously :)

Friday, July 23, 2010

Twinkle, twinkle little star ~ how I admire what you are ~ alone above the world so high ~ yet strong enough to light the sky.

Monday, June 7, 2010

Star Power

June 7, 2010

Rising, shining, stronger, brighter... everyone can harness their own Star Power!

Back for a second to ground level :)

After recently attending a Star Power workshop, taught by Sande Shurin in NYC, I gained life long insight into how my dreams can form into tangible destinations - not just something to reach for.

Now, I can’t give away her workshop secrets. For that you will have to take her class (details below). Yet I will share my current plan. My 3 main passions and how I plan to get from here to the stratosphere.

Kelly Calabrese = writer, actor, creative junkie.

In defining my dream life I would envision myself as a published author, working actor and entrepreneur of a jewelry concept (I already have in 1st prototype).

This workshop helped me break down these dreams into action steps and timelines.

1st step: define dreams – DONE

2nd step: estimate how long it may take to achieve… I estimate 4 years (being optimistic, of course)

3rd step: Determine immediate next steps (within the month).

A. Create a year long time table for my two children’s books from completion to editing and submission.
B. Make a list of casting directors I need to meet over the year
C. Establish framework for my own hosting show (I interview celebrities / entertainment industry gurus) for launching my own show even if I have to post it on Vimeo.
D. Meet with a new silversmith/casting house I found in NYC which will allow me to monitor progress of my jewelry idea and ensure better communication than distant companies I have tried before.
E. Nail my 3-4 monologues so I am always ready
F. Create a year long marketing campaign idea for me to agents, CDs, etc who I already met.

Due date for all of this… June 30, 2010.

By looking at just a month’s work, and seeing the visual foundation for an entire year’s growth, I harness my star power and use the energy for active, upward momentum.

It's all very inspiring! Stay tuned for updates!

And to gain your own life organizing Star Power – check out Sande Shurin’s workshops…

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Reeling in Work

February 25, 2010

Catch that man named time and wrestle him to the ground!

Ok, maybe you can't contain an hour or even a minute, but you can capture video and keep many moments alive through its alternate pixel universe.

Last night I put together segments of my Sundance interviews and I feel like I am back on Main Street... especially with all the snow outside today in NYC :)

Here's my 3 minute flashback - happening in reel time...

Kelly Calabrese Hosting Reel Sundance 2010 from Kelly Calabrese on Vimeo.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010


Jan 2010
Just returned from the the main street of Sundance... sensational films, stars, and indie actors fulfilling their snowy dreams. This year marks my 8th trip to Sundance yet my first on a full time press adventure. Getting to interview the talented spirits gave me a deeper understanding of what it takes to succeed on my Kelly Project. I began as a naive dreamer (and thankfully so! Naivety tells the feet to go!). And now... I realize I've signed up for a layer rich and life long process of persistence, specificity, and continuous self learning. The Kelly Project is so much more than wanting to get a book published, articles printed, or an acting gig. It's about committing to the ever changing and always engaging - possibility of me :)

I know that every snowflake at Sundance has its own original shape. In 2010 I will trust that I too have my own way of glistening... of being cold & wet... and of melting into anothers skin.

(pic of me and the Co-Directors of "Homewrecker" - Todd & Brad Barnes)

Wednesday, November 18, 2009


November 18, 2009

Remember that game DIG DUG? I loved it! Excavating though the dirt and making rocks fall on random bugs in order to get away. Shooting arrows, pumping things up. I wonder if that helped shape the fighter that I am today? If a game helped teach me to not give up and dig deep?

This thought came to me today because I'm feeling quite reflective about my ability to push myself - to be stronger, better. Whether its reminding myself to try and listen more, putting in that extra 10min at the gym when I'm exhausted, or that plunge I took in March of 08... leaving my job for a chance at becoming more of myself.

I think its important to reflect on strengths. Especially the strengths that help us dig deep when we are feeling weak. The fire that helps us light a room even when we are feeling less than stellar.

In a way, life is a game when you get down to it. You can only learn if you are willing to play hard and enjoy it.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Go Daddy!

August 26, 2009

Let's go - bright thoughts!

I learned a lot from an audition today - even before I left my apartment! While doing reasearch on, I found 16 steps to success from the owner and some really inspired me. Here are my favorites...

1. Get and stay out of your comfort zone.
I believe that not much happens of any significance when we're in our comfort zone. I hear people say, "But I'm concerned about security." My response to that is simple: "Security is for cadavers."2.

2. Never give up.
Almost nothing works the first time it's attempted. Just because what you're doing does not seem to be working, doesn't mean it won't work. It just means that it might not work the way you're doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn't have an opportunity.

3.When you're ready to quit, you're closer than you think.
There's an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true. It goes like this: "The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed."

4. With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be.
Very seldom will the worst consequence be anywhere near as bad as a cloud of "undefined consequences." My father would tell me early on, when I was struggling and losing my shirt trying to get Parsons Technology going, "Well, Robert, if it doesn't work, they can't eat you."

5. Focus on what you want to have happen.
Remember that old saying, "As you think, so shall you be."

6. Take things a day at a time.
No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it if you don't look too far into the future, and focus on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.

7. Always be moving forward.
Never stop investing. Never stop improving. Never stop doing something new. The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die. Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way. Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen. Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.

8.Be quick to decide.
Remember what General George S. Patton said: "A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow."

13.Never expect life to be fair.
Life isn't fair. You make your own breaks. You'll be doing good if the only meaning fair has to you, is something that you pay when you get on a bus (i.e., fare).

15.Don't take yourself too seriously.
Lighten up. Often, at least half of what we accomplish is due to luck.
None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are.

16. There's always a reason to smile.
Find it. After all, you're really lucky just to be alive. Life is short. More and more, I agree with my little brother.
He always reminds me: "We're not here for a long time, we're here for a good time!"